Positive thinking has a bit of a bad reputation. Many people see it as something you do when things are going bad and you put on your perma-grin and tell everybody you’re happy, happy, happy.
In reality that’s not what positive thinking is about. It has three main areas, reflection, expectation and transformation.
When things are going well people party, there’s no need for positive thinking because there’s nothing wrong, however, when they aren’t going so well it time to ponder. Time to think about what’s not right yet and what steps you can take to make it right.
Once you know the steps it’s time to take action. You can’t just go at it like a bull in a china shop hoping that things will be OK but in the back of your mind know that the bull is going to destroy all the china.
You must approach your action plan with genuine positive expectation. This is where the law of attraction comes in. Expect to fail and you’ll gravitate towards failure. Expect to reach your goal and you’ll gravitate towards that as well.
Do not underestimate the power of positive expectation, it’s only natural to have doubts about your ability to achieve your goals but the important thing about expectation is to put those doubts on hold just long enough for you to take the next step.
Then once you’ve taken the next step and achieved what you set out to do pop those doubts on hold again. Take it one step at a time and before you know it you’ll have walked a thousand miles. Now you’re ready for transformation.
The final area of positive thinking you need to get to grips with to make it successful is Transformation. Transformation is all about taking ownership and establishing habits.
If you blame all of your misfortunes on other people and things, you’re setting yourself up for a miserable life full of failure. In order to be successful in anything you do it’s important to take responsibility for the situation you’re in and focus on what you can change.
If you find yourself having problems of any sort, step back from it and take stock. Sort all of your issues into three categories. Those you directly change yourself, those you have influence to change but can’t do it directly and those you have no control over at all.
Put those things you have no control over in the bin. You can’t change them so stop worrying about them there’s nothing you can do about it. Take what’s left and devise a plan to sort the problem out, starting with what you have direct control over and then moving onto the stuff you have influence over.
Once you have this sorted its time to make it a habit. Don’t do it just the once and think I can do that now only to go back to your old ways, that’s not going to improve anything. You need to turn these new behaviours from all three areas, reflection, expectation and transformation into habits. This final step of creating new habits is what will enable you to make positive thinking work for you and be an awesome tool in your arsenal of tools for winning this game we call life.