These happiness tips will help you to become a happier person, but it will take time and consistent effort.
Unfortunately for all of us there is no user manual for happiness. Happiness means different things to different people, however, there are a few general guidelines that will steer you in the right direction.
These happiness tips have worked for many others and the can work for you if you give them a fair try.
Happiness Tips #1: Continuous Learning
Learning doesn’t stop just because you’re not in school anymore. Continuing to learn is key to happiness because it helps you grow as a person. Feeling that you’ve stagnated in life is a frequent cause of unhappiness, and learning will help you improve your self-esteem.
Continuing to learn will also open doors to new opportunities. It can get you a new career, or simply help you meet new people with similar interests.
Most importantly, learning has been shown to increase empathy for others. Understanding the perspectives of other people is a sure-fire way to increase your happiness.
The internet is an excellent resource for learning with lots of free and paid material on almost every subject you can think of. There’s Duolingo if you’re interested in learning a language and platforms such as Coursera and EdX for taking classes online.
If you’re willing to spend a bit of money you can take a class at your local college. If you’re interested in meeting people along with your learning, search in local community spaces such as newsletters to find small community classes. These classes are usually reasonably cheap and structured to build a sense of community.
Happiness Tips #2: Smile Often
While you’re going about your day, remember to smile! The muscles that express emotion are linked to the same emotions in our brain. When we frown, we make ourselves feel unhappy.
When we smile, our brain responds with happiness! Try writing yourself notes or setting a mobile phone alarm to remind you to smile. Don’t expect immediate results, it will take a while to become a habit. You could even try setting a timer to practice smiling for longer periods of time.
Smiling is especially effective when you’re faced with a monotonous, mildly unpleasant task. Start reminding yourself to smile throughout, and before you know it that task will seem a lot less boring!
Happiness Tips #3: Be Grateful
Practicing gratitude is so fundamental that it’s a built-in part of many religions. That’s because being grateful will rewire your thoughts toward the positive. The more often your practice gratitude, the easier you will find it to face bad situations with grace and avoid falling into mental pitfalls of self-recrimination.
There are many ways to be grateful. Every day when you wake up, you can make a mental list of things you appreciate about your life in order to put yourself in a good mood to start the day. These can be big things, such as “family,” but they can also be little things, such as liking the scent of your favorite hand soap.
You can also write a physical list of things you are grateful for. Make sure you hang it somewhere you can easily reference it when you need a reminder.
When you think about people you interact with regularly, contemplate their positive traits instead of their negative ones. Go easy on yourself as well and focus on your accomplishments instead of your failures.
Always express to the people you love how much they mean to you. Find out more about how gratitude works here.
Happiness Tips # 4: Give More
Donate to charities that do work you believe in. Research has shown that people who give to charity are significantly happier than those who don’t. Thinking about how you are making a positive impact on the work will fundamentally increase your happiness.
Along with giving to charity, give bigger tips. This will make you feel like a generous person. Plus, giving bigger tips makes you feel wealthier.
Giving doesn’t just have to be financial, studies have shown that giving 2 hours of your time to volunteer for charities or your local community will massively improve your level of happiness.
Happiness Tips #5: Take Up A Hobby
A hobby can be anything you find enjoyable. Crafts, board games, writing novels, or caring for pets are some examples of hobbies many people enjoy. Hobbies are rewarding for several reasons.
Hobbies can give you a sense of accomplishment on completion. The real happiness from hobbies comes from the journey so pick one you enjoy doing. Hobbies can also bring you closer to other people who share those same hobbies.
If you aren’t sure what hobby you want to start, you can wander the aisles of a hobby store and see what looks interesting. You can then read about your hobby online and engage in online communities built around the hobby. If you want to meet people with the same hobby in person, sites such as Meetup will help you find others who share your hobby.
Happiness Tips #6: Be Present in The Moment
Many people envy dogs for their ability to enjoy the moment they’re in without worrying about the future. Worries are useful when the problem can be solved. If you want to lead a happier life you need to know how to set worries aside and live in the present.
When you are enjoying yourself with friends, don’t let yourself be distracted by next weeks’ bills. Simply focus on the gathering and the fun you are having.
Don’t let yourself obsess about past moments, either. It’s easy to get caught in a spiral of regret, but such thoughts will only decrease your happiness.
Many people struggle with FOMO, or the fear of missing out. They can’t enjoy where they are because they’re too busy worrying about where they’re not. In order to overcome FOMO, focus on where you are and who you’re with.
Don’t let other thoughts or problems intrude. Remember that you can enjoy yourself in the present moment and ruining it by thinking of what you’re not doing will not help you become a happier person.
Happiness Tips #7: Help Yourself First
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. There’s a reason that airplane safety signs tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first.
Caring about other people is a fantastic trait to have. But you will be useless to others if you don’t prioritize your own health and well-being first. A healthy, happy person is much better equipped to help others than a downtrodden, worn-out person.
Learn how to say, “No.” Know what the limits of your time and energy are and make sure you always have time for yourself to recharge. Time to relax is just as essential to your health as eating vegetables.
Happiness Tips #8: Embrace a Growth Mindset
Studies have shown that students who believe their performance on tasks is based on natural talent instead of learned skills will put in less effort and perform worse on tasks. This is the power of the growth mindset.
The growth mindset is about understanding that most things in life are skills that you develop by practicing them. No one is born naturally good at mathematics. It’s a skill that is honed through practice.
Whenever you are tempted to think you’re not good at a task because you weren’t born with natural talent, remember that it’s just a skill set you can practice and improve on if you choose. This will lead you to happiness because it will help you realize that even happiness is something you can learn through practice.
Happiness Tips #9: Money Will Not Buy Happiness
In our modern world, it seems everyone is constantly being given the message to put everything else aside in favor of earning more money. Yet once your basic needs are met, there is no research that supports the idea that having more money makes you happier. In fact, research reflects that happiness levels are unaltered by the amount of money you have.
If you’re thinking about taking a job that will make you happier but come with a pay cut, the decision that will lead to the most happiness is likely to be taking the job. The money a higher paying job will provide you with will not make up for the misery you feel working it.
While you need to make sure you have enough money to get your basic needs met, beyond that you should consider prioritizing your time based on what makes you happiest, not what makes you the most money.
Happiness Tips #10: Take Action
These tips will not do you any good if you sit on your couch telling yourself you’ll implement them tomorrow. Idleness has been linked with unhappiness in numerous studies.
If you want to live a happier life, you need to decide on an action and then actually go out and do it! Start that business, or take up that hobby you’ve been wanting to do. Waiting for something good to happen will not leave you any happier than when you started. Going out in the world and taking the necessary actions to become happier is key.
Happiness Tips #11: Don’t Hold Grudges
Hatred is a toxic emotion that takes hold of your thoughts and separates you from other people. It might feel important in the moment to hold a grudge against your Aunt Karen because she broke your toaster that one time, but all you’ve really accomplished is making a rift in your family and making yourself less happy.
If possible, try to understand why the person you’re holding a grudge against took that action. Did Aunt Karen think she was being helpful when she tried to scrub out the inside of your toaster?
Sometimes people really do bad things and need to be cut out of your life, but make sure you aren’t letting yourself dwell on them, revisiting the negativity over and over again.
Thinking negative thoughts will leave you unhappy. In order to increase your happiness, you must find a way to embrace positive thoughts. Realize that hating others is only giving them valuable real estate in your mind.
Hatred has a nasty tendency to spiral out and take over your thoughts, not just about the person yu hate but it permeates into the rest of your life too. Set aside your hatred and think positively instead, even if the positive side is you’ve cut them out of your life and won’t ever have to see them again.
Happiness Tips #12: Remove External Negativity
External negativity can take many forms. It can be a toxic friend who isn’t really your friend at all. It can be newspapers and TV talk shows that spew hatred. It can even be internet comments that bring you down because of their negativity, or a job that you hate.
The best thing to do when you realize something is dragging down your happiness is to find a way to remove it from your life. You can cut off contact with the toxic friend, avoid news that only depresses you, and stop reading internet comments.
Just the act of taking control can bring you more happiness, you have control over how much news you watch on TV. If your job sucks, just the act of searching for a new one can bring you relief and cheer your up.
Practicing the happiness tips in this blog post will only get you so far as long as there are constant sources of unhappiness battering at the gate’s you’ll find it very difficult to remain consistently happy. Remove as much of the crap from your life as you can and move toward happiness.
All the tips in this post will take effort, that’s because being happy takes effort, it won’t come to you, you must make a conscious consistent effort to do the things you need to do to be happy.
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