Do you find yourself avoiding things you so desperately want to try? Maybe you even take it to the extreme staying away such situations where an opportunity may arise so you don’t have to beat yourself up when you fail to attempt it again.
Catch 22 Situation
This behaviour is a symptom of a lack of self-confidence. It’s a catch 22 situation, you need self-confidence in order to attempt what it is you desire but the only way to gain self-confidence is to do it a few times. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to get around this.
What to Do
Firstly, you need to be aware that everybody was a beginner at some point. Don’t expect to be able to start something new and be a master of it straight away. To master a skill and I mean really master it, it takes approximately 10,000 hours.
If you wanted to learn to play the piano using this estimate and you played 40 hours per week, 50 weeks per year it would take you 5 years to master the skill of playing the piano, with this being the case what chance do you have of getting it right first time and not making any mistakes.
This rule isn’t only applicable to playing the piano, it can be applied to almost every area of your life. Remember, you have to start somewhere so why not start now.
If there’s something that you truly want to do and you genuinely feel you can’t tackle it start smaller. Gain the confidence you need to start from some other area of your life. It doesn’t even have to be related in any way.
Just Do It
This may sound a bit strange but bear with me. As I mentioned earlier, confidence comes through the act of doing. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you do something. Find something else that doesn’t scare you as much. Something that makes you feel so uncomfortable that you normally wouldn’t do it but could if you really wanted to.
Once you have this in mind go out and do it. When you accomplish this smaller feat you will gain a sense of accomplishment. Now celebrate to reinforce the feeling that you can do it. You’ve now overcome your first hurdle so it’s time to pick something a little harder. You know you can do it because you accomplished the first thing and this is only a little harder.
Now evaluate how you feel about the big thing you want to do and repeat the process, each time evaluating how you feel about the big goal. Over time your anxiety levels regarding the big goal will decrease until you feel that it’s within your grasp.
When this happens, go for it. Don’t mull it over just do it as soon as you feel ready. Over analysing it will just make you feel worse about the matter and prevent you from starting. Sometimes you just have to do it.
In this short post I’ve demonstrated two ways in which you can gain the confidence you need to achieve just about anything. It’ll not happen overnight, sometimes change take time and sometimes it doesn’t but if you really want reach your goal and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get there you can do it.
Everybody Has to Start Somewhere
Remember everybody who has ever done what you would like to do was once a beginner and they had no idea how to do it yet somehow became successful. If you feel so paralysed by the thought of even attempting going after a goal no matter how much you may want it, take the long route to your destination, go around the houses and gain the level of confidence you need from reaching smaller goals that challenge you and make you uncomfortable but still feels within your reach.